Bollywood is kind of like porn. It leads to unrealistic expectations and fantasies. You shouldn’t be allowed to watch porn or Bollywood until at least 21 years of age.
Bollywood has billions of people the globe over believing that India is filled with big, loving Indian families, with tons of jewelry and palatial palaces. Bollywood would have you believe that the typical Indian marriage is all about chiffon saris, vacationing in the Swiss Alps and a chup chup ke romance while your in-laws are not watching. Well guess what? While I love chiffon saris and the Swiss Alps I don’t think they are the mainstay of most marriages I observe. Simply put, the images Bollywood portrays are unrealistic and fanciful. They are make-belive. Your husband may not be as doting as Hritik Roshan in Jodha Akbar and your whole life will probably not be a scene from Hum Saath Saath Hain. It may be but it probably won’t be.
While Bollywood may portray unrealistic expectations, I do believe that every Indian girl gets her Bollywood moment on her wedding day. The lengha, the jewels, the mehndi, the handsome dhula on his white horse. It is a taste of the Bollywood life. It’s a moment when all your Bollywood fantasies come to life even if it lasts just for a few hours it is so, so, so, so good.
Your life may not be as perfect, as grand or as spectacular as a Bollywood Epic but there will be glimpses of all the fantasies, the fairy tales and the romances you have read about or watched on the silver screen. There will be dramatic highs, there will be terrible lows and there will be moments when the man of your dreams sweeps you off your feet. But in between those Bollywood moments will be the everyday reality of dishes piled up in the sink, laundry to be folded and a husband whose decided farting in front of you is an acceptable course of action.
I never saw Shah Rukh Khan fart in front of Anushka Sharma in Rab Ne Bani Jodi, did you?
So forget about the heroes and heroines of Bollywood. The New Indian Wife is all about the survivors (and thrivers) of a real Indian marriage.